Turning 35: The Lessons I’ve Learned Along the Way
I’ve prioritized finding my voice and values more than ever as I entered my mid-thirties; especially after living through multiple losses, becoming a mom and moving away from the only city I ever called home.
Here’s what’s been on my mind lately:
As a helper, I need to ask “do you want me to offer advice or just listen?” Not everyone wants me to solve their problems.
If you say yes to something, think about what you’re saying no to. And vice versa.
It’s okay if your response makes people uncomfortable, especially when they’ve already made you uncomfortable (heyyy fellow recovering people pleasers).
Sometimes (a lot of the times) you need to put down the self-help books and/or social media motivational posts and just start doing. Or read a really fun fiction book or listen to an amazing playlist.
Just because somebody has a morning routine (or any routine) that works for them, doesn’t mean you have to follow it. Do what you like and what works for you. If you hate a part of it, you won’t want to see it through nor will it serve you.
Ask yourself “What do I know to be true?” before reacting to a personal or professional situation.
You can be a thermostat instead of a thermometer when you enter a room. Change the temperature instead of meeting it.
